Inspirational Quote: Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you too, can become great. When you are seeking to bring big plans to fruition, it is important with whom you regularly associate. Hang out with friends who are like-minded and who are also designing purpose-filled lives. Similarly be that kind of a friend for your friends." ~Mark Twain
Notes from Lily:
Today's quote is near and dear to my heart. So often as we are trying to make the transition to making ourselves and our most basic needs a priority, we will meet with resistance. Whether it is our husband, parents, children, employers or friends, we will be met along our journey's by those who haven't learned to love themselves enough to support us unconditionally on our journey.
Often we will sacrifice our own well being for their well-being thinking that we "owe" them our loyalty in the form of bending to their will. Or perhaps it feels easier to give in than to resist.
The truth is that making yourself the priority is especially important at this stage of your journey into healing around your body. If any of the people in your life feel more like heavy weight than a bouquet of balloons, you want to reconsider the amount of time you are spending with them or get the conversation started soon around what you need from the relationship for it to thrive.
If you can't ask for what you want, it is a red flag.
Many are afraid of taking this step for fear that they will lose the relationship. And I will ask you this...What would it mean for you to lose the "weighty" relationships? Do you feel lighter around it? Fearful because it represents change?
Real love and real friendship means support in every form. Asking for this from your closest circle of friends and relationships is mandatory for a happy life. This is of course a reciprocal relationship so you will want to offer the same level of support you request.
However, if there is an imbalance in a relationship that has been going on for a while, and you choose to stay in the relationship, it means you are going to do an even more thorough job of taking care of your own needs.
Ultimately you are responsible for your happiness, it is an inside job. Being aware of the individuals that are causing the most tension in your life, and observing their unsupportive behavior over time will allow you to see that it is not only appropriate, but healthy for you to support yourself over anyone else.
Don't judge them, you will only suffer, merely make shifts in your own behavior that make up for what they are not able to provide at this time. You can always hold a vision that they will shift their behavior with the awareness that your growth will rub off on them (which it does in many cases)!
In the meantime I would ask you, have you ever made yourself a priority? If not, why not? What would it take to make yourself #1 for this week as a test run?
Try it out and see what magic unfolds.
Much love to you. Thank you again for the opportunity to serve.